Skip to content

Areas › Your marriage

Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

Narrowed down

3 practices

Rituals of connection Core Any ordinary day Clear all

Theme · Rituals of connection

Knowing your partner 6 Gratitude 5 Shared spiritual life 4 Fondness and admiration 4 Affection and touch 4 Rituals of connection 3 Answering bids 3 Staying regulated in conflict 2

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Approach · Core

Core 3 Emotionally focused 2 Gottman 2

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 3 Coming and going 2

Say plainly when you are here and for how long, so they never have to guess.

Naming your presence is a small gift that removes the guesswork of whether you are reachable.

A minuteRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 17:34

Go to bed at the same time tonight.

Small shared rhythms, sleeping and waking and eating together, are the scaffolding of closeness.

Five minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 30:21

Share one meal today with nothing else happening, no screen, no rush.

Undivided attention over something ordinary is a small daily ritual of belonging.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19