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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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Emotionally focused Five minutes Any ordinary day Clear all

Theme

Rituals of connection 1 Knowing your partner 1

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 15 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 4

Approach · Emotionally focused

Gottman 9 Core 7 Emotionally focused 2

When · Any ordinary day

Under stress 4 After a row 2 Any ordinary day 2

See your bond as a safe haven and a secure base, not just romance. Your partner is meant to be the person you run to and the place you launch from.

In the science of love, a partner is an attachment figure: a safe harbour in distress and a secure base you venture out from. Treating the…

Five minutesKnowing your partnerEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:21

Keep one daily moment to reconnect, a few minutes that are only about the two of you.

Morning coffee, the walk, the goodnight. A small daily island of us.

Five minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 25:62