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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

Narrowed down

21 practices

Emotionally focused Any ordinary day Clear all

Theme

Knowing your partner 5 Answering bids 4 Repair after rupture 3 Staying regulated in conflict 2 Rituals of connection 2 Affection and touch 2 Listening and understanding 1 Shared spiritual life 1 Fondness and admiration 1

How long you have

A minute 15 Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 4

Approach · Emotionally focused

Gottman 63 Core 31 Emotionally focused 21

When · Any ordinary day

Under stress 22 Any ordinary day 21 After a row 19 Something good 1

Encourage one thing your spouse wants to try, and tell them you have got their back.

Go, I am here if it wobbles. A secure base is what lets someone venture out bravely.

A minuteShared spiritual lifeEmotionally focusedQur’an 5:2