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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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Theme · Affection and touch
Knowing your partner 5Answering bids 4Repair after rupture 3Rituals of connection 2Staying regulated in conflict 2Affection and touch 2Listening and understanding 1Fondness and admiration 1Shared spiritual life 1
Approach · Emotionally focused
Core 4Emotionally focused 2Gottman 1
When · Any ordinary day
Under stress 5Any ordinary day 2After a row 1

Give your spouse one embrace today that lasts longer than usual, until you both soften.

A hug held past the polite second. Long enough for the shoulders to drop.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

Offer your spouse warm touch today with nothing asked in return.

A hand on the shoulder, a passing squeeze. Contact that is only kindness, not a request.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187