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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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2 practices

Rituals of connection Emotionally focused Any ordinary day Clear all

Theme · Rituals of connection

Knowing your partner 5 Answering bids 4 Repair after rupture 3 Rituals of connection 2 Affection and touch 2 Staying regulated in conflict 2 Listening and understanding 1 Fondness and admiration 1 Shared spiritual life 1

How long you have

Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Approach · Emotionally focused

Core 3 Gottman 2 Emotionally focused 2

Keep one daily moment to reconnect, a few minutes that are only about the two of you.

Morning coffee, the walk, the goodnight. A small daily island of us.

Five minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 25:62

Once this week, sit together unhurried and share one feeling and one reassurance.

Not logistics. How are we really, and what do you need from me. A regular heart to heart.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:21