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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

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Theme · Repair after rupture

Shared spiritual life 6 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Rebuilding trust 3 Knowing your partner 2 Answering bids 2 Rituals of connection 2 Repair after rupture 1

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 5 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Approach · Gottman

Emotionally focused 3 Gottman 1

Revisit a past fight only once you are both calm, from the balcony, without climbing back into it.

Processing means talking about the incident, not re-fighting it. Wait until the heat is gone.

Twenty minutesRepair after ruptureGottmanQur’an 4:128