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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

Narrowed down

3 practices

Rituals of connection Twenty minutes Any ordinary day Clear all

Theme · Rituals of connection

Shared spiritual life 7 Rituals of connection 3 Knowing your partner 3 Repair after rupture 2 Rebuilding trust 2 Answering bids 1

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 1 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 3

Approach

Emotionally focused 1 Gottman 1 Core 1

When · Any ordinary day

Any ordinary day 3 Something good 1

Once this week, sit together unhurried and share one feeling and one reassurance.

Not logistics. How are we really, and what do you need from me. A regular heart to heart.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:21

Share one meal today with nothing else happening, no screen, no rush.

Undivided attention over something ordinary is a small daily ritual of belonging.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19

Keep a weekly date, just the two of you, to keep learning each other with open questions.

A regular two hours together, asking about dreams and hopes, keeps your map of each other current.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:74