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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

Narrowed down

3 practices

Rituals of connection Five minutes Clear all

Theme · Rituals of connection

Staying regulated in conflict 10 Knowing your partner 8 Rebuilding trust 7 Listening and understanding 5 Shared spiritual life 4 Rituals of connection 3 Repair after rupture 2 Affection and touch 1

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 6 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 4

Approach

Emotionally focused 1 Gottman 1 Core 1

Keep one daily moment to reconnect, a few minutes that are only about the two of you.

Morning coffee, the walk, the goodnight. A small daily island of us.

Five minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 25:62

Choose one small daily ritual and protect it this week. Same time, phones away.

The morning tea, the evening walk, the goodnight. Small, repeated, only yours.

Five minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:62

Go to bed at the same time tonight.

Small shared rhythms, sleeping and waking and eating together, are the scaffolding of closeness.

Five minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 30:21