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Your marriage

What keeps a marriage well is not the big gestures. It is knowing each other, turning towards each other in ordinary moments, staying regulated when it gets hot, and repairing quickly when it goes wrong. Most of the practices here take under five minutes.

Narrowed down

4 practices

Rituals of connection Twenty minutes Clear all

Theme · Rituals of connection

Shared spiritual life 7 Staying regulated in conflict 7 Rituals of connection 4 Repair after rupture 4 Knowing your partner 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Answering bids 2

How long you have · Twenty minutes

A minute 6 Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 4

Approach

Gottman 2 Emotionally focused 1 Core 1

When

Any ordinary day 3 Something good 1

Once this week, sit together unhurried and share one feeling and one reassurance.

Not logistics. How are we really, and what do you need from me. A regular heart to heart.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:21

Mark one milestone together this month, however small, rather than letting it pass.

The anniversary, the finished project, the hard season survived. Pause and honour it.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 14:7

Share one meal today with nothing else happening, no screen, no rush.

Undivided attention over something ordinary is a small daily ritual of belonging.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionCoreQur’an 4:19

Keep a weekly date, just the two of you, to keep learning each other with open questions.

A regular two hours together, asking about dreams and hopes, keeps your map of each other current.

Twenty minutesRituals of connectionGottmanQur’an 25:74