Lesson 3 of 6
The relief is real, and that is the problem
When you check, or repeat, or ask, the anxiety does drop. That part is not imaginary. It genuinely comes down, and quite quickly.
That drop is what teaches your brain that the check was necessary. So the next time the doubt turns up it turns up with more urgency, because last time the check was what saved you. You check again, it works again, and the loop tightens.
None of this makes you weak. It is exactly how learning is meant to work. It is simply pointed at the wrong thing.