A parent who keeps hurting youStep 1 of 9

Before you read on

Read this first. Some of what gets called a difficult parent is not difficult, it is dangerous, and this course is the wrong one for it. If you are frightened of a parent or a relative, if you have been threatened, if someone is holding your passport or your documents, if you are being pressured into a marriage or threatened over travel or marriage, if someone controls your money so that you cannot leave, if a child in the family is being harmed, or if you are having thoughts of not wanting to be alive, then stop here. Go to the course called When home is not safe, and reach a service today. Forced marriage and honour based harm need a service that handles exactly that, not a general counselling line. Nothing here is scored, and nobody is being told what is happening to them.

Lesson 3 of 6

The sentence you have probably been told

If you were a good Muslim you would just obey her. She carried you for nine months. Paradise is under her feet. Your parents are your paradise and your hell.

That last one circulates everywhere and we could not find a source for it, so we are not going to repeat it as though it were a text. It is a saying. Somebody said it once and it travelled.

The rest of this lesson is what the Qur'an and the sound reports actually say. It is more demanding than you expect in one direction and much less demanding than you have been told in another.