Not processing. Standing.

Lesson two said the grief is real and has no container. So the change this course teaches is not a technique for working through the grief. It is giving the loss standing in the world.

That distinction matters. Processing is something a trained person does with you. Standing is something you can do this week, and it targets the exact thing the loop runs on, which is that nothing outside your own head ever registered that this happened.

It is also worth being honest about the evidence, because you deserve to know what you are being offered. When the trials on formal support after perinatal death were pooled, the reviewers concluded that the evidence was not sufficient to show that structured support programmes improve outcomes. That is not a finding that nothing helps. It is a finding that the field has not shown that any package beats being treated well, being told the truth, and not being alone.

So what follows is modest on purpose. It is small, it is chosen by you, and it is low risk.