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Do not write off simply sitting with someone. When researchers looked into why dummy treatments helped, one of the things they kept finding was half an hour of a person's full attention.

Thirty minutes of someone listening properly to your difficulties is not filler around the real treatment. Across the talking therapies, who the therapist is and how the relationship goes accounts for more of the outcome than which method is being used. It is also the one thing always in your gift, on a day when nothing else is working and there is no technique left to try.

Before you use this

This explains how treatments work. Never start, stop or change a medication because of something you read here.

Qur’an and Sunnah

You were gentle in your dealings with them (Quran 3:159). The verse goes on to say that harshness would have scattered them, which puts manner at the centre of the work rather than at its edges.

فَبِمَا رَحۡمَةࣲ مِّنَ ٱللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمۡۖ وَلَوۡ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ ٱلۡقَلۡبِ لَٱنفَضُّواْ مِنۡ حَوۡلِكَۖ فَٱعۡفُ عَنۡهُمۡ وَٱسۡتَغۡفِرۡ لَهُمۡ وَشَاوِرۡهُمۡ فِي ٱلۡأَمۡرِۖ فَإِذَا عَزَمۡتَ فَتَوَكَّلۡ عَلَى ٱللَّهِۚ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ يُحِبُّ ٱلۡمُتَوَكِّلِينَ

By an act of mercy from God, you [Prophet] were gentle in your dealings with them- had you been harsh, or hard-hearted, they would have dispersed and left you- so pardon them and ask forgiveness for them. Consult with them about matters, then, when you have decided on a course of action, put your trust in God: God loves those who put their trust in Him

Qur’an 3:159read it in the library

Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.

What the research says

A randomised clinical trial in 88 adults compared group CBT with individual coaching, with and without medication, asking whether psychological treatment helps adults who are not on medication. Both arms involve regular contact with a person who is paying attention, which the trial does not separate out and cannot. Take it as showing that structured human contact of either kind was worth having, rather than as a measurement of presence itself.

Cherkasova MV, French LR, Syer CA, Cousins L, Galina H, Ahmadi-Kashani Y, Hechtman L. (2020). Efficacy of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy With and Without Medication for Adults With ADHD: A Randomized Clinical Trial.. Journal of attention disorders doi

Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.

Why it works

Being attended to closely is itself one of the active parts, which is why time given properly is rarely wasted.

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