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You are practising the pause, not giving anything up. Once you have paused, go ahead and drink the water.
This gets misheard quickly and turns into one more rule about denying yourself, which most people rebel against inside a week. The target is the second of choosing, and what you choose afterwards is genuinely not the measure. Plenty of days you will pause and then take it, and that still counts as a rep.
Qur’an and Sunnah
If anyone desires the life to come and strives after it as he should, as a true believer, his striving will be thanked (Quran 17:19). It is the striving that is named, not a tally of what you went without.
وَمَنۡ أَرَادَ ٱلۡأٓخِرَةَ وَسَعَىٰ لَهَا سَعۡيَهَا وَهُوَ مُؤۡمِنࣱ فَأُوْلَٰٓئِكَ كَانَ سَعۡيُهُم مَّشۡكُورࣰ ا
But if anyone desires the life to come and strives after it as he should, as a true believer, his striving will be thanked
Qur’an 17:19read it in the library
Translation: M.A.S. Abdel Haleem, The Qur'an, Oxford University Press, 2004.
What the research says
A Cochrane review of oral naltrexone for opioid dependence makes the point in a harder setting. The medication does what it does pharmacologically, but people stopped taking it, so retention and adherence were the problem rather than the mechanism. That is a review of a medication, so it speaks to how hard it is to sustain an approach built on blocking, not to water glasses.
Minozzi S, Amato L, Vecchi S, Davoli M, Kirchmayer U, Verster A. (2006). Oral naltrexone maintenance treatment for opioid dependence.. The Cochrane database of systematic reviews doi
Strength of evidence: one line of research. A single study, or a theoretical account.
Why it works
Forbidding yourself something starts a fight you do not need, while a pause costs nothing.
This one is still a draft. It is waiting on a scholar and a clinician to read it before it is published.
Near this one
One or two minutes every day will do more for you than forty minutes once a week. The long sit sounds serious and is mostly a good way to end up dreading it.
Meditation does more as upkeep than as a fire extinguisher. Doing it on the calm days is what lowers the level your threat system sits at.
Resolving harder is not a plan. What protects you in a hot moment is a skill you have already practised and a situation you have set up in your favour.