Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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Approach · Parts work
When someone tells you they have been hurting themselves, keep your face steady and stay curious. Alarm closes the conversation, and you need it open.
A visible flinch teaches the person that this is not something you can hear, and the next disclosure goes elsewhere or nowhere. It can also make the…
Put something in before you take something out. Removing the only way a person has of coping leaves them with nothing, which is not safer.
In practice this looks like smaller steps than a promise to stop: cutting the frequency, changing what is used, agreeing to wait ten minutes and do…
Ask what the behaviour does for them, and then ask how they would like to feel instead. Both questions open more than telling them to stop ever does.
The first question maps what is being managed: numbness, rage, panic, a need to make something visible. The second gives you a goal in their words…
There is more about low mood and hard feelings than the practices: the low mood and hard feelings area has the themes and the courses too.