Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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2 practicesHow long you have · A minute
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
Approach · Trauma informed
When someone's shame fills the room, check your own state before you say anything. If you start to shrink, or to worry that you are handling this badly, they will feel it.
Shame is catching. The particular risk is a quiet spiral of your own, along the lines of I am no good at this, which pulls you out of the room at the…
With someone carrying old shame, ask about the closeness itself. Is it alright that I am sitting here with you? Would a bit more space help? Then adjust, and let them see you adjust.
Small changes work best. Shifting your chair back slightly, looking away for a moment, softening your voice, then checking what that was like for…
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