Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

Cool the body first A practitioner Both of us together Clear all

Who it is written for · A practitioner

A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 2 Me 2

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 2 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · Both of us together

On my own 55 Involves someone else 7 Both of us together 3

Theme · Cool the body first

Getting assessed and diagnosed 41 Medication and how it works 33 Feelings and focus 15 Systems for daily life 14 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Emotions as signals 11 Touch and bodywork 9 When anger turns to harm 8 Growing empathy 8 Treatment and medication 8 Practising under provocation 7 Shame 7 The cost of avoiding 6 What anger actually is 6 Screens and attention 5 Being seen and judged 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 Cool the body first 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 What ADHD actually is 3 When everything feels flat 3 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Your sense of time 2 When you go numb 2 The fear underneath anger 2 Moving your body 2 Grounding and settling 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Making it stick 1 Remembering to do it 1 Get started 1 Use your strengths 1 The moment before you snap 1 Structure and routine 1 Choosing your response 1 Bringing the future closer 1 Your nervous system 1 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 What you are actually defending 1

Approach

Body based 2 Mindfulness 1

If someone stands up mid argument, stay where you are. Rising with them turns a conversation into a stand off.

Therapists who sit with couples notice that the person on their feet usually sits back down within a minute or two when nobody gets up to meet them.…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 31:19

In a hostile exchange, try a slow hmm instead of a reply. It sounds like someone thinking, and it puts a long out breath in the way of whatever you were about to say.

The sound we make when we are unsure is already in everyone's repertoire, and it reads as puzzlement rather than as a threat, so the other person has…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 50:39

If you notice a hard locked stare, in yourself or in the room, look away. Empty space is the safest thing to look at, because it says nothing back.

Two people staring each other down are feeding one another, and each second of it raises both of them. Breaking that needs no words, which matters,…

A minuteCool the body firstMindfulnessQur’an 20:130

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.