Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices
Who it is written for · Me
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
Theme · Cool the body first
Approach

In a hostile exchange, try a slow hmm instead of a reply. It sounds like someone thinking, and it puts a long out breath in the way of whatever you were about to say.

The sound we make when we are unsure is already in everyone's repertoire, and it reads as puzzlement rather than as a threat, so the other person has…

A minuteCool the body firstBody basedQur’an 50:39

If you notice a hard locked stare, in yourself or in the room, look away. Empty space is the safest thing to look at, because it says nothing back.

Two people staring each other down are feeding one another, and each second of it raises both of them. Breaking that needs no words, which matters,…

A minuteCool the body firstMindfulnessQur’an 20:130

Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.