Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Growing empathy Both of us together After a row Clear all

Who it is written for

A practitioner 2 My husband or wife 2 Me 1

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 1 Coping, mostly 1

Theme · Growing empathy

Feelings and focus 8 Equanimity and perspective 4 Cool the body first 3 What anger actually is 3 Growing empathy 2 The moment before you snap 2 The cost of avoiding 2 Emotions as signals 2 When you go numb 2 Use your strengths 1 Facing it a step at a time 1 Remembering to do it 1 Your sense of time 1 Treatment and medication 1 When anger turns to harm 1

Approach

Medical and treatment 1 Body based 1

When · After a row

Any ordinary day 7 After a row 2

Repeating back what your partner said proves you were listening. It does not prove you were touched by it, and they can tell the difference.

Reflective listening can be done perfectly and still land cold, because the words check the content while your face and body report that nothing…

Five minutesGrowing empathyBody basedQur’an 21:107

The thing worth admitting is not that you were angry. It is what you were frightened of underneath it: being made a fool of, being left, being counted as useless.

Anger is the easy half to say and it rarely lands well. The fear underneath is harder to say and it is the part that gets you heard. One sentence…

Five minutesGrowing empathyMedical and treatmentQur’an 17:24

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