Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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3 practicesWho it is written for
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
Theme · What anger actually is
When · After a row
When somebody says they were not scared, they just do not like being disrespected, take the dislike seriously. We dislike what threatens us, and that is why we avoid it.
The move keeps everyone's dignity intact. You are not telling a person they were frightened, you are pointing out that disliking something and being…
If somebody insists they were not afraid of the disrespect, agree with them. Good, because if there was nothing to fear then the words were safe, and safe things can be left alone.
Whichever way the answer goes it is useful. Either the fear is now on the table, or the disrespect has just been agreed to be harmless, and the next…
There is a difference between being afraid and being seen as afraid, and it is usually the second one people are defending. Worth asking which of the two is actually the problem.
Once somebody can say the trouble is what others would make of it, the whole reputational job anger has been doing comes into view. Often the belief…
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