Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices

Coping, mostly Both of us together When apart Clear all

Area

Low mood and hard feelings 2 Focus, starting, and ADHD 1

How long you have

Five minutes 2 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 2 My husband or wife 2 Me 2

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 3 Struggling right now 2

On your own, or with someone · Both of us together

Involves someone else 3 Both of us together 3

Theme

Emotions as signals 2 Screens and attention 1

Approach

Emotionally focused 2 CBT 1

When · When apart

Any ordinary day 117After a row 19 Under stress 9 In a change 4 When apart 3 Coming and going 2

I am used to it is not the same as I feel nothing. It usually means a great deal of practice at feeling nothing, and that practice costs something.

Believe the person when they say they are used to it, and hear what is inside the sentence: this has happened often enough that they have built…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 50:16

When somebody says they just get on with it, take the getting on with it seriously. That is the door, and arguing with the nothing is a wall.

This happens a lot, I just roll with it, I forget about it: there is a whole strategy in that sentence and it is visible, unlike the feeling…

Five minutesEmotions as signalsEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:155

Pick one series and watch it together on the same evening each week. The point is not the programme. It is that something puts the two of you in the same room on purpose.

With an older teenager or a young adult, a set night can carry a relationship through stretches when talking is hard. Some weeks you will pause it…

LongerScreens and attentionCBTQur’an 33:35

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