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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices
Anger remove filterEquanimity and perspective remove filterBoth of us together remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 1Five minutes 3
Who it is written for
Me 4A practitioner 4My husband or wife 3Someone I care about 2
On your own, or with someone · Both of us together
On my own 57Involves someone else 7Both of us together 4
Theme · Equanimity and perspective
Growing empathy 9When anger turns to harm 8What anger actually is 7Practising under provocation 7Equanimity and perspective 4Cool the body first 3The moment before you snap 2The fear underneath anger 2Making it stick 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1What you are actually defending 1Choosing your response 1
Approach
Mindfulness 3Core 1

You do not actually know what they are about to say, or why they did it. Swapping the finished sentence in your head for help me understand costs nothing and changes the whole exchange.

Finishing people's sentences, deciding in advance what they meant, hearing the insult before it has been made: all of it feels like insight and most…

A minuteEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 6:59

You do not have to jump straight to understanding. Try the step before it: hands open, honestly puzzled, help me see what just happened here.

It has to be a real question. The rhetorical version, asked with your jaw set, makes things worse and both of you know it. Ask, then stay quiet long…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveCoreQur’an 6:59

Their account makes sense from where they are standing. So does yours. Granting the first does not cost you the second.

This is the part people refuse, because they hear it as folding. It is not. You can say plainly that from where they sat it looked like that, and…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 6:59

You can be completely right and still lose the room. Usually the trouble is not the point you are making, it is the edge you are making it with.

Softening how you say something is not conceding it. It is the difference between being heard and being braced against. Listen for the tells in your…

Five minutesEquanimity and perspectiveMindfulnessQur’an 41:46

There is more about anger than the practices: the anger area has the themes and the courses too.