Practices

Try this with someone you trust. They say a word, you say the first word back, fast, ten or so in a row. Black, white, mum, dad, sky. Then notice that nothing strange came out of you.

Underneath a lot of social fear sits the belief that speaking without preparing will let something humiliating escape. A minute of quick word…

When you are ready, make it personal and small. Something you noticed about the person in front of you, said lightly, is the rung most people dread and most need.

Personal remarks are the feared category, because they cannot be passed off as neutral. Do it first with someone safe, a therapist, an easy relative,…

Agree a short phrase to use at home. Saying I am having OCD worries tells a parent what is going on without handing them the worry to solve.

Once a parent hears the details they will nearly always try to help by answering, and answering is the thing that feeds it. A label gives them…