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Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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2 practices

Shame Coping, mostly Both of us together Clear all

Who it is written for

Someone I care about 2 A practitioner 2 My husband or wife 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Struggling right now 4 Coping, mostly 2 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone · Both of us together

Both of us together 2 Involves someone else 1

Theme · Shame

Getting assessed and diagnosed 30 Medication and how it works 18 Systems for daily life 7 Emotions as signals 7 Growing empathy 7 What anger actually is 7 When anger turns to harm 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Touch and bodywork 6 Bringing the future closer 5 Treatment and medication 5 The cost of avoiding 5 Feelings and focus 5 Being seen and judged 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 Screens and attention 3 Exercise, food and other supports 2 Practising under provocation 2 Your sense of time 2 Shame 2 What ADHD actually is 2 The fear underneath anger 2 Moving your body 2 When everything feels flat 2 Get started 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 1 Your nervous system 1 What you are actually defending 1 Use your strengths 1 Cool the body first 1 The moment before you snap 1 Structure and routine 1 Making it stick 1 Grounding and settling 1

Approach

Trauma informed 1 Emotionally focused 1

When

Under stress 1 Coming and going 1

When someone tells you they have failed, the most useful thing you can do is nothing clever. Let your face stay soft and keep looking at them.

Shame is braced for disgust, so it reads your face before it hears your words. A quick reassurance can even land as a rush to move on. Slower is…

A minuteShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 93:3

When someone's shame fills the room, check your own state before you say anything. If you start to shrink, or to worry that you are handling this badly, they will feel it.

Shame is catching. The particular risk is a quiet spiral of your own, along the lines of I am no good at this, which pulls you out of the room at the…

A minuteShameTrauma informedQur’an 53:32

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