Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism
That flash of temper when someone meets a fact that undoes their story is not stupidity. It is a mind defending its own shape, which is a real need rather than a shameful one.
Say this to yourself before you say anything to them, because contempt carries in the voice even when it stays out of the words. Being wrong and not…
When something in the room or in the wider world unsettles you, saying so as your own unease usually travels further than handing down a verdict.
A verdict invites a counter verdict, and then the two of you are in a match. Naming what you notice in yourself gives the other person somewhere to…
Someone who holds themselves to an exact standard will often hear a gentle correction as an attack. With them the useful thing is timing: build some trust before you offer the other way of seeing it.
The reframe you have ready is probably right and probably too early. Consistency matters enormously to this person, so an alternative view is not…
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