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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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When you go numb remove filterInvolves someone else remove filterEmotionally focused remove filterClear all
Who it is written for
My husband or wife 1Me 1A practitioner 1
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
On my own 4Both of us together 2Involves someone else 1
Theme · When you go numb
Affection and touch 7Staying regulated in conflict 7Emotions as signals 7Answering bids 6Knowing your partner 6Repair after rupture 4Rebuilding trust 2Shame 2Rituals of connection 2Listening and understanding 1When you go numb 1Shared spiritual life 1

Pulling back makes you harder to reach, which makes people give up on reaching, which looks like proof that nobody was coming. The loop closes itself.

Being told to open up rarely breaks it, because opening up in one go is exactly the risk the whole strategy exists to prevent. What breaks it is…

Five minutesWhen you go numbEmotionally focusedQur’an 39:23

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