Practices

Say out breath, not breath. Told to take a signal breath, most people pull air in hard, which stirs them up rather than settling them.

This is a small wording change that decides whether the technique works. Whether you are teaching someone else or reminding yourself, put the phase…

If someone already has a practice in their life, hang the new skill on that rather than handing them something foreign.

Someone who does yoga already knows what a hand gesture is for and will not find it odd. Someone who prays already has fixed times in the day and a…

People arrive at anger work braced for a lecture and an instruction to breathe deeply. Handing them something they did not see coming buys you their attention.

This matters most with people who did not choose to be there. If the session matches what they expected, they can sit through the whole thing without…

For a child who is boiling over: eyes closed, fingers gently over the ears, and a long humming breath out. They can feel the buzzing inside their own head.

Blocking their ears is something an upset child often does already, so you are borrowing a movement their hands know rather than teaching a new one.…