Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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3 practices

Low mood and hard feelings Involves someone else Body based Clear all

Area · Low mood and hard feelings

Your body 39 Anger 4 Low mood and hard feelings 3

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 2

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Me 2 Someone I care about 1

Where you are right now

Getting ready for something 2 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 10 Involves someone else 3

Approach · Body based

Emotionally focused 10 Medical and treatment 8 DBT skills 5 Body based 3

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 1

Before telling someone what you have noticed about them, ask whether they want it. Do you mind if I offer something back to you? Then describe only what you saw, plainly.

Close attention is not neutral for a person who grew up being watched for a reason. Asking first turns being observed into something they agreed to,…

A minuteTolerate distressBody basedQur’an 52:48

Whoever is going to do the feeling picks what to work with. The tightness in the chest, the closing throat, the anger, the grief, whichever one they are ready for today.

Choosing keeps the person in charge of the dose, and being in charge is a fair part of what makes this different from whatever happened to them. If…

Five minutesTolerate distressBody basedQur’an 2:286

Say it out loud before you start: you decide how much of this you feel, and when. Stopping for a bit is part of the plan, not a failure of it.

Being in charge of the dial is most of what separates useful contact with a hard feeling from being flooded by it again. If you are helping someone,…

Five minutesTolerate distressBody basedQur’an 2:286

There is more about low mood and hard feelings than the practices: the low mood and hard feelings area has the themes and the courses too.