Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Remembering to do it Someone I care about Involves someone else Clear all

Who it is written for · Someone I care about

Me 6 My husband or wife 4 A practitioner 4 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 2 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 20 Involves someone else 3 Both of us together 1

Theme · Remembering to do it

Medication and how it works 40 Systems for daily life 35 The cost of avoiding 34 Screens and attention 25 Moving your body 21 Treatment and medication 18 Exercise, food and other supports 13 What ADHD actually is 12 Feelings and focus 11 Your sense of time 11 Breaking the worry loop 11 Your nervous system 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 What anger actually is 9 What worry does 9 Structure and routine 9 Grounding and settling 8 Facing it a step at a time 8 Get started 6 Choosing your response 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Shame and stigma 5 Breathing 5 When you use something to cope 5 Bringing the future closer 5 The moment before you snap 5 Getting assessed and diagnosed 4 Equanimity and perspective 4 Emotions as signals 4 Making it stick 3 Remembering to do it 3 When everything feels flat 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Cool the body first 3 Tolerate distress 2 Growing empathy 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Help someone grieving 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 The fear underneath anger 2 What you are actually defending 2 Rest and pacing 1 Practising under provocation 1 Being seen and judged 1

When

After a row 2 Any ordinary day 1

You can mean something completely, drive most of the way there with it in your head, and still turn left instead of right. Meaning it and doing it are two separate events, and only one of them is visible to anyone else.

To a partner, the missed errand looks like a verdict on where they come in your order of things. It helps to say out loud, at a calm moment rather…

Five minutesRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 12:42

If you are going to ask someone to remind you, tie it to something they want as well. Reminding you to book the car in is much easier when it is also their car.

Asked as a favour it becomes a job they never applied for, and resentment collects quietly on both sides. Asked as a shared arrangement it lasts. Be…

Five minutesRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 51:55

You will still forget things. What decides how much damage a missed task does is usually the ten minutes after you notice, not the miss itself.

Two moves reliably make it worse: sinking into shame until you cannot look at the person, and defending yourself as though nothing had been dropped.…

Five minutesRemembering to do itADHD skillsQur’an 18:24

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