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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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5 practices
Affection and touch remove filterInvolves someone else remove filterUnder stress remove filterClear all
Who it is written for
Me 5My husband or wife 5
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Involves someone else 5On my own 1
Theme · Affection and touch
Staying regulated in conflict 11The cost of avoiding 8Answering bids 7Screens and attention 6Affection and touch 5Feelings and focus 4Your nervous system 4Knowing your partner 3Listening and understanding 3The fear underneath anger 2Getting assessed and diagnosed 2Grounding and settling 2Treatment and medication 2Shame and stigma 2Structure and routine 2The moment before you snap 2Systems for daily life 2What worry does 2Choosing your response 2What anger actually is 2Tolerate distress 1Cool the body first 1Emotions as signals 1Growing empathy 1Equanimity and perspective 1Facing it a step at a time 1Feeling from the inside 1Reading, numbers and learning differences 1Medication and how it works 1Moving your body 1Exercise, food and other supports 1Posture and how you carry yourself 1Rebuild trust 1Repair after rupture 1Rest and pacing 1Safety and grounding 1Shared spiritual life 1Treatment and medication 1What you are actually defending 1Breaking the worry loop 1
Approach
Emotionally focused 4Core 1
When · Under stress
Any ordinary day 6Under stress 5After a row 1Coming and going 1

When your spouse is hurting today, be the place they come to, not one more thing to manage.

Move toward the pain, not away. A hand, a nearness, a steady I am here.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

When your spouse reaches today, respond with tenderness before anything else.

Not advice, not a fix. First a soft word or a warm hand, then the rest.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 3:159

When your spouse is overwhelmed today, sit close and let your calm steady them.

You do not have to fix it. A steady body beside a flooded one helps it settle.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 9:40

Let your presence be the place your spouse can fall apart safely today.

No performance required with you. Make your nearness the one place they can just be.

A minuteAffection and touchEmotionally focusedQur’an 2:187

When they are upset, move physically closer before you say anything.

Nearness often comforts before any words can, and asks nothing in return.

A minuteAffection and touchCoreQur’an 30:21

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