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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Area · Anger
Focus, starting, and ADHD 249Your marriage 123Worry and anxiety 84Your body 71Anger 64Low mood and hard feelings 26After harm 3Yourself and your limits 3Grief and loss 2
How long you have
A minute 19Five minutes 38Twenty minutes 7
Who it is written for
A practitioner 60Me 48Someone I care about 40My husband or wife 13
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 35Getting ready for something 20Struggling right now 9
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
On my own 535Involves someone else 64Both of us together 46
Theme
What anger actually is 13The moment before you snap 10Equanimity and perspective 7Growing empathy 7Cool the body first 7Choosing your response 7Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Making it stick 3Practising under provocation 3The fear underneath anger 2What you are actually defending 2
Approach
Core 30Mindfulness 15CBT 8Medical and treatment 6Body based 4Gottman 1
When
Any ordinary day 34After a row 15Under stress 12When apart 2Coming and going 1

Not all hostile looking anger is hostile. Some people are not reading malice into a situation, they simply cannot tell what the other person meant and fall back on assuming the worst.

The difference matters. If somebody has decided you meant harm, you can go through the evidence with them. If they never managed to read the signal…

Five minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 25:63

Anger feels righteous while it lasts. The useful moment comes later, when the regret shows up and the story has gone quiet.

Nobody changes course mid-shout, and pressing then only adds fuel. Hours or a day afterwards there is usually a stretch where a person is…

Twenty minutesWhat anger actually isCoreQur’an 21:87

When your thinking comes back online mid-argument, say so and offer a restart. I could feel myself getting defensive and this is not helping either of us, shall we try that again?

Most people escalate sometimes. The skill worth having is not never starting but knowing how to get out once you have. Naming it yourself gives the…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 12:92

Say what you would prefer and what you will do, not what they have to feel. I do not like being spoken to this way, and if it carries on I am going to step out of the conversation.

The difference is small and it changes everything. A demand needs their cooperation to succeed, so it can be refused, and being refused is where the…

Five minutesWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 42:41

There is more about anger than the practices: the anger area has the themes and the courses too.