Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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4 practices

The moment before you snap Five minutes Involves someone else Clear all

How long you have · Five minutes

A minute 5 Five minutes 4 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 4 Me 4 Someone I care about 2

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 2 Getting ready for something 1 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 34 Involves someone else 4 Both of us together 1

Theme · The moment before you snap

Medication and how it works 43 The cost of avoiding 15 Screens and attention 13 Systems for daily life 12 What anger actually is 10 Rebuilding trust 8 What ADHD actually is 8 Your sense of time 8 Bringing the future closer 8 Moving your body 8 Exercise, food and other supports 8 Your nervous system 8 Treatment and medication 7 What worry does 7 Knowing your partner 7 Facing it a step at a time 7 Breaking the worry loop 6 Remembering to do it 6 Feelings and focus 5 Choosing your response 5 Staying regulated in conflict 5 Cool the body first 5 Emotions as signals 5 Equanimity and perspective 5 Listening and understanding 5 When everything feels flat 5 Structure and routine 4 The moment before you snap 4 When you use something to cope 4 Rituals of connection 3 Getting assessed and diagnosed 3 Shared spiritual life 3 Growing empathy 3 Food, caffeine and fuel 3 Tolerate distress 3 Touch and bodywork 3 Reading, numbers and learning differences 3 Shame and stigma 2 Being seen and judged 2 Get started 2 Panic and the body 2 Grounding and settling 2 Shame 2 Treatment and medication 2 Righteous anger and perfectionism 2 The fear underneath anger 1 Living with uncertainty 1 Rest and pacing 1 Repair after rupture 1 What you are actually defending 1 Practising under provocation 1 Posture and how you carry yourself 1 Obsessions and compulsions 1 When you go numb 1 Making it stick 1 Help someone grieving 1 Affection and touch 1 Feeling from the inside 1 Breathing 1 Ask and say no well 1

Approach

Mindfulness 2 Core 2

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 1 After a row 1

Sometimes you dislike a person or a room before you can say why. The fast part of you stores feelings, not explanations, so the reaction arrives whole and wordless.

If you cannot account for your reaction, you are not being evasive, and neither is anyone else who cannot account for theirs. Asking "why are you…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapCoreQur’an 23:97

There is a stretch after anger fires when a person is feeling rather than thinking. In it, only information that matches the emotion gets through, so reasoning at yourself or at anyone else is wasted breath.

What does land in that stretch is physical and relational: a slower breath, a change of room, a hand on your own chest, a kind tone that asks for…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapCoreQur’an 12:24

Learn a new practice in that order: the picture of what it is, then the plain steps, then actually doing it. Knowing what is coming settles most of the resistance before it starts.

Say to yourself, or to the person you are teaching, that in a minute the talking stops and the doing begins. It sounds trivial and it removes the low…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 16:98

Afterwards, ask what that was like rather than whether it worked. Every answer is usable, including the ones that sound like complaints.

People come back with all sorts: restful, stressful because my head is so fast, mostly sounds and aches rather than thoughts, strangely reassuring.…

Five minutesThe moment before you snapMindfulnessQur’an 13:11

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