Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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How long you have · Twenty minutes
Who it is written for
Theme · Knowing your partner
Screens and attention 9The cost of avoiding 9Systems for daily life 9Treatment and medication 8Medication and how it works 8Moving your body 7Shared spiritual life 6Feelings and focus 6Staying regulated in conflict 5What ADHD actually is 5Rituals of connection 4Breaking the worry loop 4Growing empathy 4Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Exercise, food and other supports 4Get started 3Knowing your partner 3Rebuilding trust 3Repair after rupture 3What worry does 3Answering bids 2Facing it a step at a time 2Shame and stigma 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Breathing 2Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Posture and how you carry yourself 1Food, caffeine and fuel 1When you use something to cope 1What anger actually is 1The moment before you snap 1Your nervous system 1Structure and routine 1Your sense of time 1
Approach
Tell your spouse about a raw spot, an old tender place that still gets touched.
When you go quiet I feel abandoned, like I did as a child. Name the ache, not the blame.
Ask one open question about their inner world tonight, and just listen to the whole answer.
What are you hoping for lately, what are you dreading. Questions with no single answer.
Ask your spouse about a moment from their childhood that shaped them, and listen closely.
What comfort felt like then, what they longed for. It still lives in how they love now.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.