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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have · Twenty minutes
A minute 7Five minutes 1Twenty minutes 3
Who it is written for
My husband or wife 3Me 3
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Involves someone else 3On my own 1
Theme · Repair after rupture
Screens and attention 9The cost of avoiding 9Systems for daily life 9Medication and how it works 8Treatment and medication 8Moving your body 7Shared spiritual life 6Feelings and focus 6What ADHD actually is 5Staying regulated in conflict 5Getting assessed and diagnosed 4Growing empathy 4Rituals of connection 4Breaking the worry loop 4Exercise, food and other supports 4Rebuilding trust 3Get started 3Knowing your partner 3Repair after rupture 3What worry does 3Breathing 2Shame and stigma 2Answering bids 2Reading, numbers and learning differences 2Facing it a step at a time 2Your sense of time 1Righteous anger and perfectionism 1Food, caffeine and fuel 1Posture and how you carry yourself 1When you use something to cope 1What anger actually is 1The moment before you snap 1Structure and routine 1Your nervous system 1
Approach
Emotionally focused 2Gottman 1
When
After a row 2Any ordinary day 1

Name one old hurt with your spouse that still aches, gently and without re-litigating.

When you were not there that day, it marked me. Naming it is not attacking, it is asking to heal.

Twenty minutesRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 42:40

When your spouse names a wound you caused, listen without defending, even once.

Not I didn't mean to. First: I hear that I hurt you, and I am sorry. Defence can wait.

Twenty minutesRepair after ruptureEmotionally focusedQur’an 4:135

Revisit a past fight only once you are both calm, from the balcony, without climbing back into it.

Processing means talking about the incident, not re-fighting it. Wait until the heat is gone.

Twenty minutesRepair after ruptureGottmanQur’an 4:128

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