Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

3 practices

Facing it a step at a time Coping, mostly Involves someone else Clear all

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 3 Me 1

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Getting ready for something 7 Coping, mostly 3

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 6 Involves someone else 3

Theme · Facing it a step at a time

Medication and how it works 34 Staying regulated in conflict 24 Systems for daily life 24 The cost of avoiding 20 Moving your body 16 Knowing your partner 15 Rebuilding trust 14 Affection and touch 13 Exercise, food and other supports 13 Screens and attention 12 Listening and understanding 12 Repair after rupture 11 Answering bids 11 Rituals of connection 11 Shared spiritual life 10 Your nervous system 8 Bringing the future closer 8 Feelings and focus 8 What anger actually is 8 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 Your sense of time 7 Structure and routine 7 Treatment and medication 7 What ADHD actually is 7 Breaking the worry loop 7 Growing empathy 6 What worry does 6 Equanimity and perspective 6 Get started 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Emotions as signals 5 Grounding and settling 4 When you use something to cope 4 When everything feels flat 4 Breathing 4 Treatment and medication 4 The moment before you snap 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Choosing your response 3 Gratitude 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Shame and stigma 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Being seen and judged 2 Tolerate distress 2 Touch and bodywork 2 Ask and say no well 2 Remembering to do it 2 Fondness and admiration 2 What you are actually defending 2 Help someone grieving 2 The fear underneath anger 2 Panic and the body 2 Shame 1 Practising under provocation 1 Safety and grounding 1 Posture and how you carry yourself 1 Cool the body first 1 Validate yourself and others 1

When

Any ordinary day 2 Under stress 1

If you are helping someone with their sleep and eating, ask rather than instruct. The moment you sound like their mother you have lost the part of you that was useful.

Young adults are busy becoming separate people, and any adult who picks up the parental voice gets folded into that argument whatever they were…

Five minutesFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 13:11

Say out loud, before you start, that there will be bad weeks. Then when one turns up it is a thing you expected rather than proof the whole plan was nonsense.

Setbacks get read catastrophically when nobody warned you: back to the beginning, all that for nothing. Agree in advance what happens instead. You…

Five minutesFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 65:7

Ask which step they are willing to try, and then go with their answer. A smaller step they chose themselves tends to get attempted, and a bigger one you chose for them often does not.

In practice this means holding the ladder loosely. You keep the shape of it, they pick the rung, and if they pick lower than you hoped you take the…

Five minutesFacing it a step at a timeCBTQur’an 2:286

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