Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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7 practices

Getting assessed and diagnosed Coping, mostly Involves someone else Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 3 Twenty minutes 3 Longer 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 7 Me 3 Someone I care about 3

Where you are right now · Coping, mostly

Coping, mostly 7 Struggling right now 2 Getting ready for something 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

Both of us together 30 On my own 26 Involves someone else 7

Theme · Getting assessed and diagnosed

Medication and how it works 34 Systems for daily life 24 Staying regulated in conflict 24 The cost of avoiding 20 Moving your body 16 Knowing your partner 15 Rebuilding trust 14 Affection and touch 13 Exercise, food and other supports 13 Listening and understanding 12 Screens and attention 12 Repair after rupture 11 Answering bids 11 Rituals of connection 11 Shared spiritual life 10 Bringing the future closer 8 Your nervous system 8 Feelings and focus 8 What anger actually is 8 Breaking the worry loop 7 Your sense of time 7 Structure and routine 7 Getting assessed and diagnosed 7 Treatment and medication 7 What ADHD actually is 7 Growing empathy 6 What worry does 6 Equanimity and perspective 6 Emotions as signals 5 Food, caffeine and fuel 5 Get started 5 Grounding and settling 4 When you use something to cope 4 Breathing 4 Treatment and medication 4 When everything feels flat 4 Choosing your response 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 The moment before you snap 3 Facing it a step at a time 3 The fear underneath anger 2 Obsessions and compulsions 2 Being seen and judged 2 Ask and say no well 2 Help someone grieving 2 What you are actually defending 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Tolerate distress 2 Remembering to do it 2 Gratitude 2 Shame and stigma 2 Fondness and admiration 2 Touch and bodywork 2 Panic and the body 2 Practising under provocation 1 Shame 1 Safety and grounding 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Posture and how you carry yourself 1 Cool the body first 1

Approach

ADHD skills 5 Core 2

When

Any ordinary day 4 Under stress 2 In a change 1

Home DNA tests turn up relatives nobody expected. If someone is thinking of taking one to fill in a blank family history, it is worth saying out loud that it may hand them more than they asked for.

People find half siblings. Sometimes they find that the story they were told about their birth was not the story. That is a great deal to receive by…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 50:16

Ask for the old school reports every time. Some people arrive with a folder of every one they ever had, and you cannot tell in advance which people those are.

It is easy to assume that a parent who is disorganised will not have kept anything, and that assumption quietly costs you evidence. Teacher comments…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 16:43

When you explain executive function to parents and teachers, four words will do: attention, reasoning, speed, memory. Each one can be worked on, and four is a number people can still repeat at the school gate a week later.

The academic models have a dozen headings and nobody outside the field retains them. A short list gives parents something to hang observations on, so…

Five minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 2:31

Attention and impulse problems that appear for the first time in middle age or later are not ADHD arriving late. They need a doctor to look, not a prescription.

Several conditions affecting the frontal lobes can show up first as new disinhibition, poor judgement or a change in personality, and some are…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 21:7

Ask whether anyone kept the old school reports. The same lines turn up generation after generation: not working to potential, talks too much, never has the right books with him.

They were written by teachers who had never heard of ADHD, about children nobody was going to assess, and that is exactly what makes them worth…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 96:5

For the child who flies off the handle at noise, labels and crowded rooms, with no autism diagnosis in the picture, a free parent completed sensitivity questionnaire will tell you more than another behaviour chart.

It gives you a structured way to describe the reactivity without reaching for a diagnosis the child may not have, and it points at what to change:…

Twenty minutesGetting assessed and diagnosedCoreQur’an 4:28

When a child with attention difficulties is also at war with every instruction, that pairing is worth taking to someone early rather than waiting to see whether it settles.

The two travel together often, and a minority of children follow a path from constant defiance into more serious trouble later. Every stage of that…

LongerGetting assessed and diagnosedADHD skillsQur’an 2:216

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