Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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2 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now · Struggling right now
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · The moment before you snap
Once it starts rolling, it gathers. A small exchange becomes a shouting match becomes something with consequences, and every step feels reasonable given the one before.
The cheapest place to stop is early, at the first sharp reply, long before you can see how far it has gone. Naming it out loud helps: "we are…
There is a stretch after anger fires when a person is feeling rather than thinking. In it, only information that matches the emotion gets through, so reasoning at yourself or at anyone else is wasted breath.
What does land in that stretch is physical and relational: a slower breath, a change of room, a hand on your own chest, a kind tone that asks for…
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