Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
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Theme · What anger actually is
Most outbursts are a last try at getting something across. Underneath the noise there is usually a need that has gone unmet for a long time.
It rarely arrives as a message, though. It arrives as volume, and the other person hears the volume and misses the content entirely. Treating it as a…
Some anger is really about being left. It flares when someone pulls away, goes quiet or seems less interested, and it comes out as an accusation rather than as the fear it is.
The giveaway is that it happens with the same one or two people, the ones whose closeness you rely on. Anger skills alone do little here, because the…
Anger feels righteous while it lasts. The useful moment comes later, when the regret shows up and the story has gone quiet.
Nobody changes course mid-shout, and pressing then only adds fuel. Hours or a day afterwards there is usually a stretch where a person is…
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