Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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How long you have
Who it is written for
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On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · When you use something to cope
Medication and how it works 61Systems for daily life 37The cost of avoiding 36Screens and attention 26Staying regulated in conflict 24Moving your body 21Treatment and medication 20Knowing your partner 15Exercise, food and other supports 15Rebuilding trust 14Affection and touch 13Feelings and focus 13What ADHD actually is 13What anger actually is 13Listening and understanding 12Your sense of time 11Rituals of connection 11Your nervous system 11Breaking the worry loop 11Answering bids 11Repair after rupture 11Facing it a step at a time 10The moment before you snap 10Structure and routine 10What worry does 10Shared spiritual life 10Food, caffeine and fuel 10Getting assessed and diagnosed 10Grounding and settling 9Bringing the future closer 9Equanimity and perspective 7When everything feels flat 7Get started 7Treatment and medication 7Growing empathy 7Emotions as signals 7Cool the body first 7Choosing your response 7Breathing 7Remembering to do it 6Reading, numbers and learning differences 6Posture and how you carry yourself 5Shame and stigma 5When you use something to cope 5Tolerate distress 4Touch and bodywork 4Making it stick 3Practising under provocation 3Being seen and judged 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Panic and the body 3Obsessions and compulsions 3The fear underneath anger 2What you are actually defending 2Help someone grieving 2Fondness and admiration 2Shame 2Gratitude 2Rest and pacing 2Feeling from the inside 2Ask and say no well 2When you go numb 1Validate yourself and others 1Safety and grounding 1Living with uncertainty 1
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If telling your doctor or midwife what you are using feels impossible, you can ask someone you already trust to pass it on for you, with your permission and in your words.

People often stay quiet with the very clinician who could help, because saying it out loud feels heavier than the problem does. Handing the message…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeMedical and treatmentQur’an 9:104

Distant health warnings move almost nobody. The cost that lands is the one showing up this month: your memory, your marks, the work you know you could be doing.

So keep it specific and keep it near. Heavy drinking in the teens and early twenties shows up in memory and in school work, which is the exact ground…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 17:26

What you tried at that age is a poor guide to what is in front of your child now. Cannabis today is far stronger than the same word used to mean.

The sentence that closes most of these conversations is I turned out fine. Try a different one: ask what it does for them, when they reach for it,…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 25:43

Nicotine looks like the small problem next to everything else going on, and it is the one most likely to still be here in thirty years.

Most adults who smoke started as teenagers, and the earlier the start the harder the eventual stopping tends to be. So it earns a place on the list…

Five minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 24:21

If a young person is using regularly, waiting to see whether they grow out of it is a gamble. Help early is nearly always cheaper than help later.

Families often hold off because raising it feels like an accusation. You can raise it without one: say what you have noticed, say you are not going…

Twenty minutesWhen you use something to copeDBT skillsQur’an 2:195

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