Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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10 practices
How long you have
Who it is written for
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
Theme · Food, caffeine and fuel
Medication and how it works 61Systems for daily life 37The cost of avoiding 36Screens and attention 26Staying regulated in conflict 24Moving your body 21Treatment and medication 20Knowing your partner 15Exercise, food and other supports 15Rebuilding trust 14What anger actually is 13What ADHD actually is 13Feelings and focus 13Affection and touch 13Listening and understanding 12Breaking the worry loop 11Rituals of connection 11Your nervous system 11Repair after rupture 11Answering bids 11Your sense of time 11Structure and routine 10Getting assessed and diagnosed 10Facing it a step at a time 10Food, caffeine and fuel 10The moment before you snap 10Shared spiritual life 10What worry does 10Grounding and settling 9Bringing the future closer 9When everything feels flat 7Breathing 7Choosing your response 7Cool the body first 7Emotions as signals 7Growing empathy 7Equanimity and perspective 7Get started 7Treatment and medication 7Remembering to do it 6Reading, numbers and learning differences 6When you use something to cope 5Shame and stigma 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Touch and bodywork 4Tolerate distress 4Practising under provocation 3Making it stick 3Being seen and judged 3Panic and the body 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Gratitude 2Fondness and admiration 2The fear underneath anger 2Feeling from the inside 2Ask and say no well 2What you are actually defending 2Rest and pacing 2Shame 2Help someone grieving 2Safety and grounding 1Validate yourself and others 1When you go numb 1Living with uncertainty 1

Here is a question that costs nothing: has anyone in your family been told their vitamin D was low? It runs in families through genes, skin tone, where you live and how much time anyone spends outside.

The clinician telling this story found out only afterwards that his mother, father and brother had all been low. Nobody had mentioned it, because it…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 15:22

Around seven in ten people who use herbal products never mention it to their doctor. Not out of secrecy, mostly because a tea or a gummy does not feel like it belongs on a list of medications.

The useful move is to answer a wider question than the one you were asked. When someone asks what medication you take, tell them what else you take…

A minuteFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 106:4

A real food allergy shows itself on the body: a rash, a swollen or inflamed throat, something you can see. Behaviour on its own does not identify one, although behaviour often improves once a genuine allergy is dealt with.

One child's attention and mood went back to her usual level once berries came out of her diet, and what made that findable was the rash and the sore…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 55:11

Most eating advice quietly assumes a budget. Fresh food is expensive and does not keep, so a household relying on food assistance ends up buying what lasts, and what lasts comes in tins and packets.

If money is the constraint, say it out loud rather than nodding along and then failing quietly at home. The advice can be rebuilt around what is…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:184

Health advice usually assumes a kitchen, a fridge and money for the week. If you are working with less than that, the answer is not to try harder at the advice. It is to shrink the plan until it fits what you actually have.

A plan you cannot keep does more than fail. It quietly adds to the pile of evidence that nothing you do makes any difference, and that pile is heavy…

Five minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 2:185

A child struggling with attention, anxiety and daily reflux at once may be dealing with one problem wearing three coats. Undiagnosed coeliac disease and other food reactions can produce all of it, and the gut symptom is the clue worth following.

Symptoms that arrive together are worth asking about together. If reading, mood and stomach all went wrong over the same period, that pattern is…

Twenty minutesFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:87

If you are testing whether a food affects you or your child, the test has to be complete. Among children with suspected sensitivity to artificial colouring, most reacted to as little as 100 mg, so a bit left in is enough to blur the answer.

What usually happens is that a family removes the obvious sources, misses the ones hidden in medicines, sauces and cereals, sees no change, and…

LongerFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:47

Cutting artificial preservatives out can genuinely help a child who reacts to them, because a child who feels unwell behaves worse. What it does not do is treat the ADHD underneath, which will still be there once they feel better.

Worth being clear with yourself about what you are hoping for, because these diets are expensive and hard to keep up. If your child does have…

LongerFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 5:87

Gluten free and dairy free eating is essential in coeliac disease and in a genuine milk allergy. Neither one treats ADHD, and putting a child on them without a reason carries costs of its own.

The cost is not only money and nutrition. It is the birthday party where they cannot have the cake and the lunch table where their food is different…

LongerFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 7:32

If you are going to test whether a food matters, work out in advance where the plan will leak. School lunch swaps, a grandparent's biscuit tin, your own memory on a hard week: all of it decides whether the answer means anything.

Change one thing at a time and keep everything else steady, otherwise you cannot tell which change did what. Then be honest about who is running the…

LongerFood, caffeine and fuelMedical and treatmentQur’an 12:47

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