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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Practising under provocation remove filterInvolves someone else remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 2Five minutes 1
Who it is written for
Me 3A practitioner 3Someone I care about 1My husband or wife 1
Where you are right now
Coping, mostly 1Getting ready for something 1Struggling right now 1
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
On my own 36Both of us together 7Involves someone else 3
Theme · Practising under provocation
Medication and how it works 61Systems for daily life 37The cost of avoiding 36Screens and attention 26Staying regulated in conflict 24Moving your body 21Treatment and medication 20Knowing your partner 15Exercise, food and other supports 15Rebuilding trust 14What ADHD actually is 13What anger actually is 13Affection and touch 13Feelings and focus 13Listening and understanding 12Breaking the worry loop 11Your nervous system 11Repair after rupture 11Your sense of time 11Answering bids 11Rituals of connection 11What worry does 10Getting assessed and diagnosed 10Facing it a step at a time 10Food, caffeine and fuel 10The moment before you snap 10Structure and routine 10Shared spiritual life 10Grounding and settling 9Bringing the future closer 9When everything feels flat 7Breathing 7Choosing your response 7Cool the body first 7Emotions as signals 7Growing empathy 7Equanimity and perspective 7Get started 7Treatment and medication 7Remembering to do it 6Reading, numbers and learning differences 6When you use something to cope 5Shame and stigma 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5Touch and bodywork 4Tolerate distress 4Panic and the body 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Practising under provocation 3Obsessions and compulsions 3Making it stick 3Being seen and judged 3The fear underneath anger 2Fondness and admiration 2Feeling from the inside 2Rest and pacing 2What you are actually defending 2Shame 2Ask and say no well 2Help someone grieving 2Gratitude 2Living with uncertainty 1When you go numb 1Validate yourself and others 1Safety and grounding 1
When
After a row 2Coming and going 1

Going silent and hard is not a neutral act. A fixed stare and a set brow land on the other person's body as threat, even though you have not said a word.

People often think they are being restrained when they go cold, and are then surprised by how frightened or defensive the other person becomes. If…

A minutePractising under provocationCBTQur’an 25:63

Before anyone does something exposing, let them check their own conditions and give them a clean way to say no. A public yes given under pressure is not really a yes.

It can be as ordinary as asking someone to consider whether they have the privacy, the time and the state of mind for this today. Ask it first and…

A minutePractising under provocationCBTQur’an 2:45

You can be genuinely indignant and still say the thing evenly. The feeling does not have to travel in your voice.

Notice what actually changes when the heat comes out of it: the words stay, the point stays, the volume and the edge go. It helps to know beforehand…

Five minutesPractising under provocationCBTQur’an 41:34

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