Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Righteous anger and perfectionism Involves someone else Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 2 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for

A practitioner 3 Someone I care about 3

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 13 Involves someone else 3 Both of us together 1

Theme · Righteous anger and perfectionism

Medication and how it works 61 Systems for daily life 37 The cost of avoiding 36 Screens and attention 26 Staying regulated in conflict 24 Moving your body 21 Treatment and medication 20 Knowing your partner 15 Exercise, food and other supports 15 Rebuilding trust 14 Affection and touch 13 Feelings and focus 13 What ADHD actually is 13 What anger actually is 13 Listening and understanding 12 Rituals of connection 11 Breaking the worry loop 11 Your sense of time 11 Answering bids 11 Your nervous system 11 Repair after rupture 11 What worry does 10 Getting assessed and diagnosed 10 Shared spiritual life 10 The moment before you snap 10 Structure and routine 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Facing it a step at a time 10 Grounding and settling 9 Bringing the future closer 9 Emotions as signals 7 Get started 7 Breathing 7 Choosing your response 7 Cool the body first 7 When everything feels flat 7 Treatment and medication 7 Equanimity and perspective 7 Growing empathy 7 Remembering to do it 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Shame and stigma 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 When you use something to cope 5 Touch and bodywork 4 Tolerate distress 4 Practising under provocation 3 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Panic and the body 3 Making it stick 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Being seen and judged 3 What you are actually defending 2 Help someone grieving 2 Ask and say no well 2 Gratitude 2 The fear underneath anger 2 Shame 2 Rest and pacing 2 Feeling from the inside 2 Fondness and admiration 2 Validate yourself and others 1 Living with uncertainty 1 When you go numb 1 Safety and grounding 1

When

Any ordinary day 2 After a row 1

That flash of temper when someone meets a fact that undoes their story is not stupidity. It is a mind defending its own shape, which is a real need rather than a shameful one.

Say this to yourself before you say anything to them, because contempt carries in the voice even when it stays out of the words. Being wrong and not…

Five minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 2:286

When something in the room or in the wider world unsettles you, saying so as your own unease usually travels further than handing down a verdict.

A verdict invites a counter verdict, and then the two of you are in a match. Naming what you notice in yourself gives the other person somewhere to…

Five minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 2:143

Someone who holds themselves to an exact standard will often hear a gentle correction as an attack. With them the useful thing is timing: build some trust before you offer the other way of seeing it.

The reframe you have ready is probably right and probably too early. Consistency matters enormously to this person, so an alternative view is not…

Twenty minutesRighteous anger and perfectionismCoreQur’an 16:125

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