Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

Shame Involves someone else Clear all

Who it is written for

Me 2 My husband or wife 2 A practitioner 2

Where you are right now

Struggling right now 1 Coping, mostly 1

On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else

On my own 10 Both of us together 7 Involves someone else 2

Theme · Shame

Medication and how it works 61 Systems for daily life 37 The cost of avoiding 36 Screens and attention 26 Staying regulated in conflict 24 Moving your body 21 Treatment and medication 20 Knowing your partner 15 Exercise, food and other supports 15 Rebuilding trust 14 Affection and touch 13 Feelings and focus 13 What ADHD actually is 13 What anger actually is 13 Listening and understanding 12 Your nervous system 11 Breaking the worry loop 11 Repair after rupture 11 Answering bids 11 Your sense of time 11 Rituals of connection 11 Facing it a step at a time 10 The moment before you snap 10 Structure and routine 10 Shared spiritual life 10 What worry does 10 Getting assessed and diagnosed 10 Food, caffeine and fuel 10 Grounding and settling 9 Bringing the future closer 9 Breathing 7 Growing empathy 7 When everything feels flat 7 Equanimity and perspective 7 Emotions as signals 7 Get started 7 Cool the body first 7 Treatment and medication 7 Choosing your response 7 Remembering to do it 6 Reading, numbers and learning differences 6 Shame and stigma 5 Posture and how you carry yourself 5 When you use something to cope 5 Touch and bodywork 4 Tolerate distress 4 Obsessions and compulsions 3 Righteous anger and perfectionism 3 Panic and the body 3 Making it stick 3 Practising under provocation 3 Being seen and judged 3 Feeling from the inside 2 Gratitude 2 Fondness and admiration 2 Rest and pacing 2 Shame 2 The fear underneath anger 2 What you are actually defending 2 Ask and say no well 2 Help someone grieving 2 Safety and grounding 1 When you go numb 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Living with uncertainty 1

When

Any ordinary day 1 After a row 1

You did not choose which things hurt you. Where you are tender was set long before you had any say in it, and the only live question is what you do with it now.

This is worth saying out loud between two people, because each usually thinks their own soft spot is embarrassing and the other's is obvious. Try…

Five minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 30:54

There is a real difference between not caring and not knowing how. A lot of what gets called failing at a relationship is simply a skill nobody ever taught you.

If you go blank when your partner cries, or answer hurt with logic, ask who ever showed you anything better. Probably nobody did. A gap like that can…

Five minutesShameEmotionally focusedQur’an 93:7

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