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Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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What you are actually defending remove filterInvolves someone else remove filterClear all
How long you have
A minute 1Five minutes 1
Who it is written for
Someone I care about 2Me 2My husband or wife 2
On your own, or with someone · Involves someone else
On my own 21Involves someone else 2Both of us together 1
Theme · What you are actually defending
Medication and how it works 61Systems for daily life 37The cost of avoiding 36Screens and attention 26Staying regulated in conflict 24Moving your body 21Treatment and medication 20Knowing your partner 15Exercise, food and other supports 15Rebuilding trust 14Affection and touch 13Feelings and focus 13What ADHD actually is 13What anger actually is 13Listening and understanding 12Your nervous system 11Breaking the worry loop 11Repair after rupture 11Answering bids 11Your sense of time 11Rituals of connection 11Facing it a step at a time 10The moment before you snap 10Structure and routine 10Shared spiritual life 10What worry does 10Getting assessed and diagnosed 10Food, caffeine and fuel 10Grounding and settling 9Bringing the future closer 9Breathing 7Growing empathy 7When everything feels flat 7Equanimity and perspective 7Emotions as signals 7Get started 7Cool the body first 7Treatment and medication 7Choosing your response 7Remembering to do it 6Reading, numbers and learning differences 6Shame and stigma 5Posture and how you carry yourself 5When you use something to cope 5Touch and bodywork 4Tolerate distress 4Obsessions and compulsions 3Righteous anger and perfectionism 3Panic and the body 3Making it stick 3Practising under provocation 3Being seen and judged 3Feeling from the inside 2Gratitude 2Fondness and admiration 2Rest and pacing 2Shame 2The fear underneath anger 2What you are actually defending 2Ask and say no well 2Help someone grieving 2Safety and grounding 1When you go numb 1Validate yourself and others 1Living with uncertainty 1
When
After a row 1Under stress 1

When your thinking comes back online mid-argument, say so and offer a restart. I could feel myself getting defensive and this is not helping either of us, shall we try that again?

Most people escalate sometimes. The skill worth having is not never starting but knowing how to get out once you have. Naming it yourself gives the…

A minuteWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 12:92

Say what you would prefer and what you will do, not what they have to feel. I do not like being spoken to this way, and if it carries on I am going to step out of the conversation.

The difference is small and it changes everything. A demand needs their cooperation to succeed, so it can be refused, and being refused is where the…

Five minutesWhat you are actually defendingCoreQur’an 42:41

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