Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
4 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Approach
Take ten quiet minutes to decompress before you walk in the door.
Arriving already softened means the day's stress is not spent on the person you love.
When you cannot skip it, shorten it. Come for the meal and skip the drinks afterwards. Two hours of you at your best is worth more to everyone than five hours ending badly.
Decide the leaving time before you arrive and say it out loud on the way in, so that it is a plan rather than a walkout. Booking something afterwards…
Do not let leaving or arriving happen silently.
Today, mark both thresholds. Before you leave, find your spouse and say goodbye properly, face to face. When you come back, find them before you do…
When you come home, find them first, before the post, the phone, the kitchen.
The first half-minute of reunion often sets the tone for the whole evening.
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