Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
2 practicesWho it is written for · My husband or wife
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Affection and touch
Staying regulated in conflict 36Fondness and admiration 13Answering bids 13Feelings and focus 12Emotions as signals 12Knowing your partner 10Repair after rupture 8Shared spiritual life 7Gratitude 7Choosing your response 5Treatment and medication 4What anger actually is 4Remembering to do it 3When you go numb 3The moment before you snap 3Rituals of connection 2Affection and touch 2Rebuilding trust 2Bringing the future closer 2Equanimity and perspective 1Systems for daily life 1Shame 1The fear underneath anger 1Listening and understanding 1
Approach
When fear or hurt makes you want to hide today, reach for your spouse instead.
The instinct is to withdraw. Do the opposite: move toward, take a hand, let them in.
Touch them once today with nothing else attached.
A hand on the shoulder as you pass. Sitting close on the sofa. Reaching for their hand while you talk about nothing. No agenda, no next step. Just…
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.