Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
2 practicesWho it is written for · My husband or wife
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · Rituals of connection
Staying regulated in conflict 36Answering bids 13Fondness and admiration 13Feelings and focus 12Emotions as signals 12Knowing your partner 10Repair after rupture 8Shared spiritual life 7Gratitude 7Choosing your response 5What anger actually is 4Treatment and medication 4Remembering to do it 3When you go numb 3The moment before you snap 3Affection and touch 2Rebuilding trust 2Bringing the future closer 2Rituals of connection 2Shame 1The fear underneath anger 1Listening and understanding 1Equanimity and perspective 1Systems for daily life 1
Do not let leaving or arriving happen silently.
Today, mark both thresholds. Before you leave, find your spouse and say goodbye properly, face to face. When you come back, find them before you do…
When you come home, find them first, before the post, the phone, the kitchen.
The first half-minute of reunion often sets the tone for the whole evening.
Looking for a whole subject rather than a single practice? Start from the nine areas.