Practices
Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.
Narrowed down
3 practicesHow long you have
Who it is written for · My husband or wife
Where you are right now
On your own, or with someone · On my own
Theme · The moment before you snap
Two or three seconds is long enough to say the sentence that ends a job or a marriage. That is the whole reason such a small skill is worth this much practice.
The distance between what you can take back and what you cannot is very short. Most people already know their own worst line, the one that comes out…
Decide now what you will say when it happens, while nothing is happening. A line chosen in the calm is worth more than any resolve you can summon mid row.
Keep it short and unheroic: I need ten minutes, I am not walking out on you. Say it aloud a few times so your mouth knows the shape of it. And if…
Anger does not need volume. A flat face, a hard stare and complete stillness can be the same storm with the sound turned off.
People who never shout often assume they do not have a problem with anger, and the people living with them know otherwise. The test is not how loud…
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