Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

Narrowed down

2 practices

The cost of avoiding A practitioner On my own Clear all

How long you have

Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 1

Who it is written for · A practitioner

A practitioner 2 Someone I care about 2 Me 1

Where you are right now

Coping, mostly 1 Struggling right now 1

On your own, or with someone · On my own

Involves someone else 35 Both of us together 6 On my own 2

Theme · The cost of avoiding

Your nervous system 108Medication and how it works 81 What anger actually is 79 The moment before you snap 70 Get started 62 Choosing your response 61 Systems for daily life 60 Grounding and settling 60 The fear underneath anger 57 Equanimity and perspective 57 Cool the body first 55 Your sense of time 52 Touch and bodywork 52 What ADHD actually is 49 Food, caffeine and fuel 48 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 44 Exercise, food and other supports 44 When everything feels flat 44 Getting assessed and diagnosed 42 Feelings and focus 38 Treatment and medication 38 Practising under provocation 36 Shame and stigma 30 Making it stick 29 Screens and attention 29 Breathing 28 What worry does 24 Treatment and medication 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Structure and routine 23 What you are actually defending 21 Being seen and judged 21 Tolerate distress 20 Growing empathy 20 When you use something to cope 19 Remembering to do it 17 Reading, numbers and learning differences 14 Righteous anger and perfectionism 13 Obsessions and compulsions 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Emotions as signals 12 Facing it a step at a time 11 Self-compassion 11 Shame 10 Question the thought 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Use your strengths 7 When anger turns to harm 7 When you go numb 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Letting it out safely 4 Rest and pacing 3 Panic and the body 2 The cost of avoiding 2

When

Any ordinary day 1 Under stress 1

Some people are not scared of the day, they are flattened by it. Staying home lifts the weight for an hour, then removes the few good things the day still held.

Low mood makes school heavy rather than dangerous: no energy, no interest, everything asking too much. Staying away helps at first and then takes…

Five minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 94:7

Before choosing a method, work out what the avoiding is doing for the person. Two children keeping away from the same building can need opposite things.

A technique that sounds right is not the same as one aimed at whatever is holding the problem in place. Ask what the hours at home actually contain,…

Twenty minutesThe cost of avoidingCBTQur’an 17:36

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