Practices

Every practice in the library, in one list. Narrow it by how long you have, who it is written for, and where you are right now.

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Letting it out safely Me On my own Clear all

How long you have

A minute 1 Five minutes 1 Twenty minutes 2

Who it is written for · Me

Someone I care about 4 A practitioner 4 Me 4

Theme · Letting it out safely

Your nervous system 105Medication and how it works 82 What anger actually is 78 The moment before you snap 76 Choosing your response 73 Get started 65 Systems for daily life 62 Grounding and settling 59 Equanimity and perspective 57 The fear underneath anger 56 Cool the body first 55 Your sense of time 52 Touch and bodywork 52 Food, caffeine and fuel 49 Moving your body 48 Bringing the future closer 46 What ADHD actually is 42 Exercise, food and other supports 41 When everything feels flat 39 Feelings and focus 37 Practising under provocation 36 Staying regulated in conflict 36 Shame and stigma 30 Treatment and medication 29 Making it stick 29 Screens and attention 28 Breathing 28 Getting assessed and diagnosed 28 Structure and routine 24 Feeling from the inside 23 Tolerate distress 23 Being seen and judged 22 What you are actually defending 21 What worry does 21 Growing empathy 20 Treatment and medication 20 Remembering to do it 20 When you use something to cope 18 Fondness and admiration 13 Breaking the worry loop 13 Answering bids 13 Obsessions and compulsions 12 Self-compassion 12 Emotions as signals 12 Righteous anger and perfectionism 12 Question the thought 11 Shame 10 Facing it a step at a time 10 Knowing your partner 10 Use your strengths 9 Posture and how you carry yourself 8 Repair after rupture 8 Anger, alcohol and the body 8 Shared spiritual life 7 Gratitude 7 When anger turns to harm 5 Meaning after harm 4 Letting it out safely 4 When you go numb 4 Living with uncertainty 4 Name what you feel 3 Safety and grounding 3 Notice the pattern and flex 3 Act on your values 3 Working with anger 3 Rest and pacing 3 Calm the body 3 Rebuilding trust 3 Your worth is not conditional 3 Let the wave come 3 Work with your brain 2 Listen to the body 2 Reading, numbers and learning differences 2 Patience and trust 2 Ride the urge 2 Rituals of connection 2 Keep the bond 2 Hold a boundary 2 Get it out of your head 2 Affection and touch 2 Find meaning 2 Face it gently 2 Your window of tolerance 2 Care for yourself in loss 2 The cost of avoiding 1 Validate yourself and others 1 Panic and the body 1 Listening and understanding 1

There is motion sitting inside the word emotion. Big feelings come out through the body, so if you cannot keep still while you are grieving, that is the feeling moving rather than something going wrong with you.

Think how strange it would be if someone heard they had come into a fortune and just said thank you and carried on with the morning. Joy gets up and…

A minuteLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 12:84

Punching something to get the anger out is the piece of grief advice that gets argued over most, and the honest answer is that hitting rarely leaves a person calmer.

Plenty of good people will tell you a bag is better than a wall or a face, and there is something in that. What has not held up is the older idea…

Five minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 14:26

Give the anger a room rather than a target. Music up loud, walk fast, dance badly, shake your arms out until something in you settles.

Some children's grief centres keep a padded room where a child can go in and move however they need to, with nothing to hit and nothing to break.…

Twenty minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 10:12

Write the exact thing you are furious about on a paper plate, tape it to the wall, and throw wet cotton balls at it. It sounds childish, and it does more than swinging at nothing.

Half the good of it is in the writing. Vague anger has to become a sentence before it can go on the plate, and reading that sentence back usually…

Twenty minutesLetting it out safelyGriefQur’an 38:41

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